It's funny how sometimes some small emotions can change a person's entire outlook on life.One of my friends (name withheld for technical reasons....let's call him 'Tom') was a guy who had a serious problem with his self-confidence and didn't know how to deal with his emotional problems. He didnt know what he wanted to do in life.....had no particular interests.......in short had no aim and ambition, so he had no motivation to do anything, simply bcoz he didnt want or expect or aim for anything. He himself began having a feeling that he was a loser and good-for-nothing. He also had a few unique characteristics .....like being extremely slow..........and his disobedient ugly mess of what he called hair was infamous all around the campus.Let me be fair, this guy has a few obscure talents like he's damn good at maths and is a pro at Vedic Mathematics, and ....er....uhmmm......yeah i guess thts abt it......maybe he's got some other hidden talents thats not yet discovered....well forget abt his talents, what i meant to say is that he was totally under an illusion that he was a "good-for-nothing" guy (maybe i exaggerated that a bit) when in fact with a little bit of self-confidence and motivation he could have become a hero (i think this i exaggerated too much). He studied in this all-boys school , so girls were a huge weakness for him. He used to literally stammer and stutter when speakin to girls and even the most ugliest girl(i mean it) looked like a babe to him.Then out of the blue came a girl 2 years his junior, she was a friend from another life.They both were good friends from long back but had lost contact over the years. They started smsing each other a couple of weeks back and before he knew it, Tom was in love (just as expected). But he felt that she wouldn't like him (just like how all the other girls responded to him).This girl turned out to be different though, it seems that she had a crush on him for years, and before Tom could digest the whole thing, they went on a date.
After the date and all, Tom's a totally new man, this is the first time I'm seeing a person's entire behaviour getting changed (and that too for the better) within so short a time due to a single reason like this. Tom's now oozing with self-confidence, he's all smiles these days, and
has become much much more active,smart and talkative.The biggest improvement is that he now takes only half the time to respond compared to the earlier days as a bachelor.I know this guys for nearly 3 years and this is the first time he's started cracking jokes(they still have a very low standard, in fact let's not call them jokes, let's just call them nearly-funny-sentences).He's now begun to feel complete and equal with his peers. Its almost like in those Tamil movies. Or to be more precise it's like in the song "Kuch to Hua hai...." in the movie "Kal Ho Na Ho", the picturisation of that song describes Tom's emotions perfectly.I used to think that romance and sincere love were for school days (in college romance has either no meaning or a totally different meaning, which is synonymous with 'sex').I feel so happy for this guy, and if theres anybody out there in this big wide world craving for love, then just go ahead and say it. Theres no harm if a few others also improve the way Tom has. Best of luck with ur love affairs people.......but i just love the care-free bachelor life, and i seriously don't want to improve ..........
